Johanna HK |
Nimekutana na hii makala ikanifurahisha nikaona ni vizuri niwashirikishe.
I think Zari knows what she is doing, and its people who don't see far who don't understand her moves. This lady is not a teenager who is looking to have fun with boyfriends. She has experiences and life has taught her many lessons. She has had money
whether through her own efforts or through
her ex (it doesn't matter) and she has realized that money without happiness
causes depression. She has met this guy who is showing her love and she has
fallen for it. I understand her situation.I think Zari knows what she is doing, and its people who don't see far who don't understand her moves. This lady is not a teenager who is looking to have fun with boyfriends. She has experiences and life has taught her many lessons. She has had money
People, especially women keep on criticizing her that she
is ignoring her children and chases Diamond's love. The lady has tried to
explain to you that she has a schedule which runs between her and the father of
her children to take care of the kids. No one knows that it was dads time to
have the kids because we don't know the family plans, and still people keep on
criticizing her for not being at her child's birthday. what ever the case, I am
sure Zari loves her kids as any mother does to her children.
What I would like my fellow ladies who know how to point
finger to others is that Zari is a person like any of her children. She is a
mother yes, but she has her needs. We as mothers have lives to live too. Having
children doesn't mean our lives stop. Zari needs love, care and to know that
someone cares for her. Her children definitely love her as a mother but they
will not satisfy her with other needs. Lets agree also that Zari has been
flying back and forth from Tanzania to SA to be with her children. To me she
has been doing very well.
How many women live in the same house with their
children 24/7 and they end up burning their hands just because they steal a
penny? how many are in the same house everyday with their kids but they spend
so much time doing their own stuff that even kids don't know whether mom is
around or not? yes we all need to spend time with our children but that does
not mean that those who spend more time they love them more. What we do when we
are with our children matters more. Make sure that the time you spend with your
children creates
memories they will never forget.
That is what we need.
But if you are lucky to spend mote time with your kids, thank God, utilize it
well but don't think other mothers who for one reason or another don't spend
the same time are not as loving to their children as you are.
Zari knows that she needs to survive and she will not
continue to depend on child support or some businesses that she created with
her ex. She is trying to build her life after it crashed. She is looking for
new friends, new love, new networks, new family and the list goes on...I have
done my own research and I have just realized that this lady is just the victim
of the male dominant society in Africa. WOMEN ARE SUPPOSED TO STICK TO THEIR
MARRIAGES BECAUSE OF THE CHILKDREN AND LISTEN TO THEIR HUSBANDS, WHETHER THEY
CHEAT, DONT LOVE YOU ANYMORE OR EVEN KILL YOU IT OK. really? This is what Zari
was expected to do.
Just because you have children then you don't have a
choice? jamani, have you seen those pictures of women who are killed by their
husbands in Tanzania for relationship reasons? Most of those women believed
that they had to stay because if they leave their husbands, the society will
not understand them.
Zari doesn't know me and I don't know her. I just read
about her in blogs, but every time I read some ladies comments it pains me to
see that some women don't understand what other women are going or have gone
through. Just know that you cannot judge anybody unless you put yourself in her
shoes.
Breaking up with someone you had children with is not
easy, especially when that someone has big money like her EX. There must be a
good reason why the poor lady decided to end up that relationship. As for now,
lets give her time to settle. You cannot expect her to have the same schedule
she used to have with her kids after beginning a new relationship. She will
definitely one day settle down and know how to balance everything.
As regards
to Wema I think she was in deep love with Diamond but had positive or negative
influence from her mom to stop seeing him, and the reason behind was like she
could get a better person than him and that he was just using her. Now that
being the situation, she chose to end the relationship. I think it is fair to
not blame Zari or hate her because she has nothing to do with the breaking of
Wema and Diamonds relationship. Did she make the right choice to break up with
him? we don't know, but time will tell. Lets be patient and
watch......................
Mother's Day is around the corner and this message came
at the right time!! Johanna HK was responding to some Tanzanian bloggers and
women who negatively criticized Zari's a.k.a The Bosslady's motherhood /
parenting style!!
Vijimambo
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